Turning the Tables
 You're done playing small. It's time to change the rules.
You’ve done everything right.
You've stayed calm. You've been the bigger person. You've managed the moods, held the emotions, carried the relationships at work, at home and in between.
You’ve been told:
 “You’re clearly upset; let’s talk when you’re less emotional.”
 “This really isn’t your area; just stick to what you know.”
 “You’re reading way too much into this…as usual.”
 “Try not to take this so personally, it’s just business.”
 “He’s under a lot of pressure; you should be more understanding.”
But inside, you’re done.
Done trying to be acceptable.
Done shrinking to be more palatable.
Done playing small just to keep the peace.
Done managing men who won’t manage themselves.
You don’t need another pep talk. You need the code.
"James is an exceptional next-level coach; insightful, compassionate and precise. Working with him has been transformative."
- Marcia Drake, Global Chief Data Officer, YON-E
This course teaches you the code.
The code to shift power with insecure men; without aggression, without asking and without apology.Â
You'll stop justifying, you'll stop waiting and you'll stop pretending.
Once you learn it, everything changes.
 Sound familiar?
- You're always the emotionally mature one; at work, at home, everywhere
- You're constantly justifying your worth to men who still don't get you
- You're successful but silently frustrated in male-dominated spaces
- You've softened your voice, your stance, your standards and still get ignored
- You lead with empathy but get met with ego, defensiveness or silence
- You're done trying to coach, coax or carry men who aren't willing to change
- You feel like you're both too much and not enough, all at once
You’re not crazy. You’re not broken.
You’re just trapped in dynamics that were never built for you to win.
Playing small doesn't create safety; it creates invisibility.
The truth is:
We live in a system designed to protect insecure men…
and condition women to accept and accommodate them.
You were taught to please, not to lead.
You were taught to shrink, not to take up space.
You were taught to question yourself, not question them.
That's why nothing changes…because the world is set up by men for men.
Turning the Tables changes all that.
You Don’t Need Permission
Here’s what I am inviting you to recognise:
- You don't need anyone's permission to take up space.Â
- You don't need to earn the right to be heard.Â
- You don't need to prove you belong in rooms you're already in.Â
- The only permission you need is your own and I suspect you're finally ready to give it to yourself.
This Programme Is For You if…
You're no longer willing to live a life that's smaller than the woman you are.
You're no longer willing to play small to keep others comfortable.
You're no longer willing to stay quiet so someone else can feel safe.
You're no longer willing to compromise your truth to protect someone else's ego.
You're finally ready to own your voice, your presence and your power.
You're ready to attract a partner who is worthy of you as their equal.
You're ready to rewrite the rules so they work for you, not against you.
You're ready to turn the tables and become the leader you've always been and the world needs.
The Spirit of this Programme is: "If I am too much, go and find less."
"I have found working with James to be life changing. I'm putting myself forward for, being asked to take on and even turning down promotions. I'm confident about where and who I am."
- Vanessa Wragg, Programme Manager, Network Rail
This isn't another empowerment course.
It's not about shouting louder or trying harder. It’s not about hating men or being anti-men. It’s not about manifesting or hoping.
This is a course in clarity, in code and in strategy.
You'll walk away knowing exactly:
- What’s holding you back
- Why it’s holding you back
- The dynamic you’re in that’s keeping you stuck
- What you’ve been doing, often unknowingly, to stay there
- What to change, and how to change it. Now.
This is power without performance. Change without confrontation. Strategy without force. Most importantly, you'll accomplish all of this without ever losing who you truly are.
This is liberation.
Inside the Programme
Six sections. One unstoppable process.
You'll move through six distinct stages designed to break old patterns, build real presence and give you the tools to change the dynamic without ever losing yourself.
See the System
Before you can change the rules, you need to see the ones you’ve been living by. This opening section helps you land softly but with purpose to begin seeing them clearly, maybe for the first time.
Reclaim Your BrillianceÂ
You can’t Turn the Tables if you don’t believe in your own worth. Here, you’ll reconnect with who you truly are to start to see, feel and trust your true power again.
Stop Playing Small
This is the emotional turning point. You’ll learn to see the cost of staying quiet, shrinking back or playing safe and to finally decide that you’re no longer willing to keep doing it.
Develop Unmistakable Presence
Once you stop playing small, it’s time to lead with presence. This section helps you embody your natural authority and influence so you become the person others instinctively trust and follow.
Change Without Confrontation
You’re not imagining it. You’re not wrong. You’ve just never been taught how it really works. This section reveals the truth and what to avoid so you don’t give your power away.
Lead Without Apology
Now the real shift happens. With a strong foundation beneath you, you’ll learn exactly what to say and do to change the dynamic, claim your space and lead…without apology.
This programme is for you if…
- You're done negotiating with dynamics that drain you more than they empower you
- You're ready to understand men to free yourself from the dynamics
- You're willing to unlearn the habits that kept you small, even if they once kept you safe
- You know you can't keep carrying everyone else's emotional weight and still rise
- You want to develop undeniable presence and the natural, unspoken authority that comes with it
- You want lasting change, not another motivational hit that fades by Monday
- You know deep down you're more than you're being and you're finally ready to meet HER
This programme is not for you if…
- You're still hoping he'll change if you're just a little more patient, kind or understanding
- You're not ready to take an honest look at how you've been playing small too
- You're still chasing approval over freedom or likeability over leadership
- You're hoping someone else will do the hard part and save you
- You want things to shift without shifting yourself
- You're hoping things will magically improve if you just carry on as you are
- You're still more willing to be comfortable than being free
What happens when you Turn the Tables?
You stop asking. You start expecting.
You stop justifying. You start leading.
You stop playing small. You start walking in your power.
You stop craving fairness. You start deciding what happens next.
You stop softening your brilliance. You start becoming impossible to ignore.
You stop proving yourself to men. You start mastering yourself.
You stop managing the room. You start living your truth.
Hello! I’m James.
It dawned on me one day that I coach women to deal with the quality of man that I grew up to be.
So you see, I didn't come to this from theory, I've actually lived it.
I was the man you're trying to understand, be recognised by, respected by, promoted by, included by and maybe even loved by.
I was the one who needed admiration more than truth because, deep down, I didn't believe I was good enough. I was the man who needed you to be smaller so I could feel bigger, who dismissed your concerns as 'overthinking' because acknowledging them meant facing my own inadequacy and interrupted you because I was terrified you might say something I couldn't match. I needed your ideas but couldn't handle you getting the credit.
Unlearning that has been the most humbling work of my life.
This programme is everything I've learned over the past 30+ years of my life to help you never feel powerless in male-dominated spaces ever again; professionally, emotionally or relationally.
"Working with James Dakin is a truly wonderful experience. It really helps you see yourself and others in a new light."
- Emma Smith | Senior ERTMS Project Manager, GB Railfreight
Your revolution starts here.
You've tried proving yourself, softening your edges, explaining your worth, waiting for recognition, asking for permission and justifying your place…but something has shifted inside you, hasn't it?
You don't need to become someone else, you just need to stop being smaller than you know yourself to be.
The girl you've been protecting by playing small has quietly grown into the woman you are today. She's ready now. The question isn't whether you're capable of this transformation. The question is:Â
Are you finally ready to stop protecting everyone else from your power?
If you are then this is your line in the sand and this is your time.
It's time to stop making insecure men comfortable and time to start re-connecting to your own power on your terms.
It's time to start Turning the Tables.
